Bitch on the Blog

October 17, 2012


Filed under: Culture — bitchontheblog @ 21:32

One of the most annoying aspects of blogging is that there are many subjects you can’t touch. If you are the coward that I clearly am shaping up to be.

I cannot believe how much I’d like to put out here but can’t. I can’t. Either there really are too many lunatics out there after my hide, or I am currently suffering a spot of acute paranoia. People get killed over the contents of their wallet (say, five Pound Sterling): Do I want to be killed over my totally irrelevant views on any matter political, religious (any denomination) or how to bring up your children? No. I don’t.

Your loss. And mine.




  1. As we uncouth Americans might say, “let ‘er rip”!

    Comment by winsomebella — October 17, 2012 @ 22:04 | Reply

    • Trouble is, Bella, no sooner do you let rip no sooner do you need to mend fences or a tear in your petticoat.

      Mind you I learnt how to knit socks – so any darning won’t be much of a hardship for me.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 18, 2012 @ 06:04 | Reply

  2. No one can come kill you if they don’t know your address. They won’t even know on what continent you live. Except colour & other words with that silly u added, might be a give away.

    Comment by bikehikebabe66 — October 17, 2012 @ 23:27 | Reply

    • You mean like those silly Canadians and Australians? Oops…

      Comment by Phil — October 18, 2012 @ 03:02 | Reply

  3. This is your blog and your words and thoughts. And you have as much right to your opinions – whether or not anyone ever likes them – as all the rest of the blogosphere. Sometimes I have to remind myself of that when I am writing about something that might be contentious. I don’t need to protect others’ sensibilities as much as I need to preserve my honor in writing truth as I see it. I love your style and your wit and if you censor that, I’m afraid we’ll be the losers. Go ahead as Bellas said, and let ‘er rip!

    Comment by writingfeemail — October 18, 2012 @ 01:35 | Reply

    • Thank you, Renee. I am most certainly not going to “censor” myself – within the boundaries of self imposed limits of what is permissible and what isn’t.

      There are areas where even Angels fear to tread. And with good reason. I will stand up for anyone and anyone’s rights. Even at risk to my nose and my teeth. But one’s OWN fights need to be picked carefully. So, whilst I am happy to discuss anything under the sun in person, I am reluctant to put down in writing some of my thoughts on the subjects of politics, religion, even differences of culture. If those subjects were dynamite they couldn’t be more inflammatory.

      And sometimes one (that’s me) just needs to know when to shut up.

      Apropos of nothing:

      May I say how very much I liked your recent “Open Letter”. It was brilliant. As was the ensuing exchange in the comment boxes. Wrote you my own lengthy commentary in reply. Then I realized that – as a Non-American – I had nothing to add or take away. So I pressed ‘delete’. You taught me a lot from one American’s impassioned point of view – from the inside out as it were.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 18, 2012 @ 05:58 | Reply

  4. “Every society honors its live conformists and its dead troublemakers.”
    ~ Mignon McLaughlin ~

    Here’s hoping I’ll be honored long after I’m dead. Care to join me? Don’t hold back U…

    Comment by Phil — October 18, 2012 @ 03:01 | Reply

    • Care to join you, Phil? What – in death?

      See you in heaven if I don’t see you in hell beforehand.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 18, 2012 @ 06:08 | Reply

      • Now that’s the Ursula we all know and love. Why wait? Join me now.

        I like your comment to Bella about the tears in your petticoats. They are markers of life’s travels – like the stickers on a worn piece of luggage, reminding you where you’ve been. Mend them if you must, but wear those tears and scuffs proudly.

        Comment by Phil — October 18, 2012 @ 13:00 | Reply

  5. I agree, U. There are many topics that I won’t touch either on my blog or in a conversation. I may think it, but I won’t say it. I am too confrontational-averse. The only exception is when someone I care about is being threatened. Then I come to their defense, and let loose in the most productive way I can. But I will never bait a person into an argument just for the fun of it, mostly because I don’t think baiting anyone or anything is fun in the least.

    I’m not saying that speaking your mind is “baiting,” but you know that there are those who would take it as bait. And then what do you do with the 400 pound marlin at the end of your line?

    Comment by Lorna's Voice — October 18, 2012 @ 12:51 | Reply

    • Hey, Lorna’s Voice. But, if you are LORNA’S voice – you would speak Lorna’s experience/thoughts, no??

      Nope. I say ‘speak it’. Why?

      Well – that’s obvious: because YOU thought it.


      Comment by WordsFallFromMyEyes — October 19, 2012 @ 09:30 | Reply

      • Easier said than done…or in my case, easier thought about than done! πŸ™‚

        Comment by Lorna's Voice — October 19, 2012 @ 15:53 | Reply

  6. Yes, perhaps you’re a little cowardly, Ursula. I mean, what’s the worst that can happen if you say something a bit controversial? You get a few rude or hysterical comments. So what? No one knows where you live, they can’t take it any further. But maybe you’ve had some really nasty experiences in the past that make you especially cautious….

    Comment by Nick — October 19, 2012 @ 09:24 | Reply

    • Nick, this is in reply to both you and ‘WordsFallFromMyEyes’ below.

      I wouldn’t call myself a coward. I will walk a dark alley way in the middle of the night, on my own, and if I got lost in the woods my heart wouldn’t miss a beat. You, Nick, know very well that I am no stranger to conflict, that I hold strong convictions, that I never shy away from speaking my mind and, by golly, don’t I know how to dodge the clods coming my way in response.

      However, and please both of you do take note: Whilst I do not avoid controversy I do employ ‘cost/benefit analysis’. And to me, and this was my main point, the subjects of RELIGION, POLITICS, CULTURAL DIFFERENCES rarely warrant to stick my neck out.

      I find it touchingly naive of three of my commentators that you think you can say anything on a blog and no one will find you. That is so sweet. Anyone can find you. Anywhere. Anytime. If so inclined. Instead let me ask you whether you have heard of the FBI, the CIA, Fatwas, hackers, the lot. Have you? And no I am not paranoid. All I know that some subjects make people switch off brain and become fundamentalist. A brick will fly through your window on grounds of a throw away remark. A throw away remark. Insert incredulity. So, back to cost/benefit. Sure I could vent certain spleens: To what benefit? Sometimes the price to pay is very high indeed.

      Let me give you one harmless example: When the French government banned Burkas I went on the barricades. The reasoning went something along the same lines as why hoodies for men should be forbidden. Soon veils at funerals won’t be allowed. And we’ll all have to check in at the airport naked. Preferably without luggage. Yes, so silly me said as much. That ‘they’ didn’t send a firing squad to shut me up was a miracle. But then, maybe, they went to the wrong address. A case of mistaken identity.

      I have seen violence erupt over nothing. Nothing. And I do know what people will do to each other in the name of – WHAT EXACTLY? Count me out.

      I can only repeat what I said earlier: I will fight for anyone but will be careful with the written word on the three subjects mentioned.

      To explain where I am coming from:

      My father wrote for one of the biggest magazine titles in the country. Investigative journalism. Highly explosive stuff. He could never take the credit for any of it because – to protect him and his family – articles were published under a pseudonym. And yes, one of his close friends, didn’t only chase every skirt in the vicinity but was a Russian spy. He lived with us for a while and to pass the time he took me on as a latter day Mata Hari in the making (minus the sex – I was only thirteen or so). Don’t say my life isn’t exciting.

      Just two more examples why, possibly, my senses are heightened: I was very young when the Cold War was still in full swing. My earliest, and rather hazy, political memory when all the normally cheerful adults of our vast household went around with grave faces. I remember words like Cuba and crisis. Then JFK became the world’s hero and a ‘Berliner’. Only to be shot five minutes later. And so on and so on. And yes, I did miss the Harrods, London, bombing by a whisker. I could now make a most pertinent remark about the British siege mentality but I won’t.

      At the risk of repeating myself: I will throw myself onto the written page with abandon but I am no fool. Where the spoken word flies with the wind the written will stand – for eternity. In the end, and please do let me know what you think, I always ask myself: Is it worth it?

      And if the sum doesn’t add up then, I am afraid, the answer is No.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 19, 2012 @ 11:28 | Reply

  7. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.

    I do not understand, for a start, what you mean by ‘shouldn’t touch on’/talk about. I have no understanding of any single reason why I should not touch upon any subject/topic AT ALLL. I believe, speak your mind until it is shut down by ‘Them’.

    Bitch on the B, my view is, while you have created this space: own it, by expressing what you will to. There is truly NO subject I would avoid IF I HAD A VOICE for it, IF I HAD SOMETHING TO SAY on it.

    And who are “they”, ANYway?????

    Comment by WordsFallFromMyEyes — October 19, 2012 @ 09:28 | Reply

    • ‘WordsFallFromMyEyes’, first of all. Thanks for taking the time to participate in the discussion.

      Please do read my reply to Nick above which is addressed to both of you. I was trying to make a distinction between the spoken word and the written word. Between risks worth taking and those which are not.

      You make me smile with your answer “Who are ‘they?’ I don’t know. Maybe I have read too much Kafka and Orwell, listened to my son’s frankly baffling if somewhat convincing conspiracy theories or am watching all the wrong films or have just woken from a nightmare.

      Anyway, it’s good to know that there are other fighting spirits out there. Those not easily shut up. It’s like a breeze of fresh air.


      PS As far as I am aware they have removed the box from ‘Speakers Corner’, Hyde Park, London.

      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 19, 2012 @ 11:30 | Reply

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