Bitch on the Blog

July 25, 2013


Filed under: Communication — bitchontheblog @ 06:53
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How does one reconcile a long standing perception you have of a person with facets of their personality emerging you cannot blind yourself to?



  1. With difficulty. But if you love the person you have to enlarge your understanding to take in the new information and reconcile it with what you already know.

    Comment by nick — July 25, 2013 @ 13:28 | Reply

    • I don’t love the person in question. Not in the romantic sense. To put it another way: I feel like someone in reverse gear. And believe me: I am good at parking. But this is something else. I battle with the fact that someone I have held in long esteem has let me down. Worse: Has let himself down. Since he still plays a major part in my life I can’t just shrug it off and leave it behind me. Anyway, I am utter rubbish at shrugging anything off. I have had few griefs in my life. Lucky me. This one? Why oh why oh why? So unnecessary for all parties involved. And there is nothing nothing NOTHING I can DO about it. And I am doer.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 25, 2013 @ 15:00 | Reply

  2. Perceptions of people are never totally accurate, nor are they fixed. It’s a fluid process, each new facet and nugget of information sometimes helpful, sometimes misunderstood, all continually shaping those perceptions. People are living beings, not some statue or piece of art to be explored with the same level of familiarity. Hell, even inanimate objects change over time – ask any statue sitting in a town square what it thinks of the pigeons. Circumstances of life shape affect and change people. I think Nick has a valid point – enlarge your understanding to reconcile. Certainly for the ones you care for at least.

    Comment by Phil — July 25, 2013 @ 14:42 | Reply

    • Indeed, Phil. Perception being so very subjective. But god damn it, I have an instinct for people. And my instincts never let me down. Ha. Feel free to laugh. And please do see my response to Nick’s comment. I just can’t get my brain round why some cause so much grief when, in reality, it could be overcome so easily. If only channels of communication were kept open. Horse, water coming to mind.

      I know I am a pushover when it comes to conflict. And I am glad. Conflict will never come between me and another person. But conflict might come between the other person and me. And there is nothing I can do. Other than trying again and again and again. Unfortunately, I don’t exhaust easily. Unlike some.

      Give me a dead corpse any time. Easier to grieve for than grieving for the living dead.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 25, 2013 @ 15:09 | Reply

  3. I love Ursula & her blog. I won’t be following for awhile ’cause I’m going to put my nose to the grindstone & get things DONE around here. When I have no nose left, I’ll return.

    Comment by bikehikebabe66 — July 25, 2013 @ 19:30 | Reply

    • My dear Cynthia, that sounds too painful for words. Please promise to keep your nose, and do donate that grindstone to Pinocchio’s creator, Gepetto, the woodcarver, before you do anything else.

      Awaiting your return impatiently, yours,

      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 25, 2013 @ 20:00 | Reply

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