Bitch on the Blog

August 6, 2013


Filed under: Ethics — bitchontheblog @ 11:58

Anger will out. I am angry about lots of things. Not least … well, never mind.

Just had a call from my son (age 21) who does a very tough job. I admire the guy. A work ethic unrivaled. I can say this since I have walked out of jobs, even job interviews. Impetuous.

For reasons not important this minute, what he just imparted reminded me of someone on whose blog I comment though she never does on mine (which is just as well since she tends to repeat herself with the same stock phrase over and over again). She had two audacities, and there is no excuse for either: First she was so very pleased with herself that she found out the Angel’s name and published it, in a comment on my blog. The Angel’s name is no secret. He couldn’t give a shit who knows about him. I do. That she did point everyone in the right direction was not only tactless. It was spiteful. One of the few comments I deleted. Neither did she apologize.

Second: My son, fresh out of college, took a terrible job. The first available. Terrible but he did it. Knocking at doors. For charity. Between the hours of 2 pm to 10 pm. Come rain or sunshine. Do any of you actually know what it’s like to knock at doors with at least two cars in the driveway asking someone to donate to charity? No. Thought not. Other than those who have actually ever tried to sell anything. Which, as an aside, we all do: Selling OURSELVES. She, see last paragraph, then had the nerve to question my son’s morality for getting paid (little) for signing up people to give money to good causes. Let’s not go there. Wouldn’t take me long to rip that argument into the shreds it deserves.

And by the way, should you, this is addressed to, read this: My son does actually donate the bonus he gets in his current job, not walking the streets any longer, to a charity. Yes, really. Do YOU?

Angry in Southampton,




  1. Casually revealing identities that have been carefully concealed (for any number of very good reasons) is stupid and thoughtless. I know most of my blogmates’ real names but I would never reveal them publicly. It would be a massive betrayal of trust.

    Comment by nick — August 6, 2013 @ 13:18 | Reply

    • Let’s just say it was thoughtless. Putting the most positive spin on it: Maybe she was trying to show her mischievous side. Which backfired, and lost her a lot of my respect. Not all [respect] but some.

      I use a number of opaque illusions for various players in my life because I do not believe it to be fair on them to be ‘outed’ in public. Blogging is bad enough in its indiscretions without naming others.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 6, 2013 @ 14:38 | Reply

  2. I generally start going through an Incredible Hulk type transformation when charity folk call or show up at my door. That is, the emotional and color parts, not the physical. But then part of me says that this person might be so desperate that I should contain myself and try to find some pretext for kindness.

    A friend of mine did door-to-door book selling in the 70’s in Texas. Snarling dogs that weren’t restrained were one feature of this, along with the occasional scrooge with a shotgun who considered the sales call to be an invasion of sovereign territory by alien vermin.

    Comment by Looney — August 6, 2013 @ 13:26 | Reply

    • Well worded, as usual, Looney.

      To quote the Angel: “It was an education.” He feels there is little he hasn’t already learnt about mankind. Good and bad. Some will invite you in, water you, feed you, others – well. As he said to me and I wasn’t sure how to take it, so I didn’t say anything: “You, Mama, wouldn’t last a minute out there.” But then he is protective.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 6, 2013 @ 14:32 | Reply

  3. When approached by a charity “seller” on the street or at the fron door I am inevitably polite but firm. I ask for information leaflets to peruse at length and when they are not forthcoming I point out that we already give to charities and do not wish to add more to the list at this moment. Mind you if they call themselves Christian, Salvation Army and the like I quote Luke 18, 22, Matthew 19,21 and /or Mark 10, 21….. one of thefew consistant teachings from the Gospels…and even then John didn’t mention it as I recall.

    As for disclosing things such as names on the web. If it is obvious that people concerned do not wish to disclose then don’t do it……. It’s an old fashioned form of courtesy. As for the Angel…. it’ sodd but until today I have never even begun to wonder what his moniker is.

    Comment by magpie11 — August 6, 2013 @ 18:40 | Reply

    • Being accosted by charity sellers as you call them has me in knots. Big fat knots. I am one of the most generous people you’d ever wish to be invited by. Yet, at the moment, I can’t. I cannot. It’s awful. If my koffers were lined … Only the other day I apologized to a beggar that I didn’t have more than fifty pence on me to give him. Should I ever come into money again … well, that’s another story.

      As to the Angel. Yes. He has the most wonderful name. It’s short. Doesn’t lend itself to abbreviation. Works in all languages. And his name’s meaning? Let’s just say he has lived up to both interpretations of it: Luck and happiness. Long may both last.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 6, 2013 @ 18:59 | Reply

      • Mm! I ‘ve got my thoughts…..

        Comment by magpie11 — August 6, 2013 @ 21:23 | Reply

  4. Having been a salesman all my life, I doff my hat to your Angel. Apart from selling Encyclopedias door to door, this is the toughest selling job and if Angel is successful as seems the case because of the bonuses that he gets, I doff my hat again to him. To use a modern idiom, must be quite a dude.

    Comment by Rummuser — August 7, 2013 @ 11:15 | Reply

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