Bitch on the Blog

January 21, 2014


Filed under: Happiness — bitchontheblog @ 00:37

Some time soon, don’t cry, I shall put down my pencil and knit. There is purpose to knitting. You might end up with a scarf. Socks at a push. Or even a VERY long and VERY thin tie as I did for my father when I was little and still thought that parents were gods. The tie was yellow. Bright. To his credit he left the house with it. No wonder it took me decades to get slightly, only slightly, disillusioned with the world. The things I made for my mother you don’t want to know about. Particularly those I never finished. Goethe said that there is never more hope than at the beginning. And he was right. As he is. Someone else, and he is even righter, that to finish something is hard. And it is. You start something (say knitting), you drop a stitch (unnoticed by you till thirty rows later). Then you have a choice. Depending on temperament and character: Unravel or forget about it.

To this day I am undecided.



  1. I knit. You need one of those doohickeys like a miniature rug hook to rescue those wee slips of the needle. Now a metaphorical hook for slips of the tongue or pen would be useful too….


    Comment by wisewebwoman — January 21, 2014 @ 01:56 | Reply

    • I try and keep my tongue where it belongs: A sword in its sheath.

      Last line of my post disingenuous. I tend to ‘unravel’. Start again. Doesn’t always do good, WWW. Your post about your sister had me in tears. Some stitches unable to retrieve. Not with the biggest, smallest, hook I have in my tool box.


      Comment by Ursula — January 21, 2014 @ 18:40 | Reply

  2. Sewing projects, how well they’re done and whether or not they’re finished, are a good indicator of how one faces life’s challenges. When I was young, I found great joy in buying material and patterns. Sometimes I’d even start a project, but there was always a point where what I was making did not match my expectations for it. Lots of sewing projects never got finished. I thought this indicative of a great personal dysfunction. So as an adult I worked on it. By the time I had a son, my practice was to finish everything I started, and I expected him to do the same. As a result, he is overcautious, he won’t take on a responsibility until he has extensively investigated all the ramifications. There are some good things about this, when he does commit to a project, he does it 100%. But mostly he observes a lot and isn’t quick to get involved in projects or relationships. I’m not sure where the balance lies for him. For myself, now I go ahead and buy the material and if I never sew it into something, I pass it on to someone who will. I’ve been able to convince myself that I accomplished something.

    Comment by Jan James — January 28, 2014 @ 21:02 | Reply

    • Brilliant observation, Jan. However, I have found that ‘indicator of how one faces life’s challenges” is not cast in stone. One minute you start AND finish, twenty years later you unravel. In more ways than one.

      As to your son: Leave him to it, I’d say. It’s not all about the influence we may have on our children when they are little. We are all born with an innate temperament. And temperament will out. Also, do remember the 80/20 rule.

      A quick glance at your own blog and I see you are fond of cats. First hurdle: Try and knit with a cat around. They’ll jump at anything that moves.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — January 28, 2014 @ 21:30 | Reply

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