Bitch on the Blog

May 10, 2014

Down the gully

Filed under: Beauty — bitchontheblog @ 07:34
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I am no fag hag. Or whatever they are called. Yet gay men fascinate me. Maybe some sort of defense mechanism to keep the straights at arm’s length.

As I have cried at your assorted shoulders before not that long ago a man (gay, naturally) wooed me. A woman likes to be wooed. Indeed I, woman, will woo a man. One. Anyway, it all went pearshaped with gay guy and I wasn’t so much put onto the compost heap as landfill.

Where was I? In our local co-op (cornershop) yesterday evening. The city I live in being a university town, the air wafting with young blood.

I don’t stare. Or gawp. Yesterday I gawped and stared. Sometimes you come across, I don’t know, ‘beauty’? No, it wasn’t beauty. A sort of ethereal quality – so artificial as not to be defined. Medium long blond – clearly dyed – hair, make up to the hilt, trousers even I wouldn’t wear in public. A vision. For those of my readers excitable: There was nothing sexual about my wonderment. The guy could have been my son. I don’t mean MY son but age wise.

Yes, beauty strikes where it strikes.

Anyway, on return home – son assuming I’d gone awol (absent without leave) – I related the encounter. Asked him, since the Angel is more streetwise than me. Questions like that will get you all the disdain you deserve. “What do you think, Mama? Of course he is gay.”

OK. Yet another loss to womankind.

I shall knit this into another thought – about beauty. In both the heterosexual and gay man. With and without mascara and eyeliner. And trousers to die for. Think Saville Row.

What fairy land did I live many years ago? Why does everything come to my attention NOW?




  1. I’m fascinated by gay men as well, because they’ve so often adopted a really distinctive and beautiful look of the sort you just don’t see on the average straight guy. And I like the way they tend to subvert all the usual gender stereotypes in one way or another.

    Comment by nick — May 10, 2014 @ 18:10 | Reply

    • Yes, Nick, but do they ‘subvert’ gender stereotypes? By instinct I’d say: No, they don’t.

      I once lived next door to a gay guy (we were in our early twenties). A beauty. Got on like a house on fire. Went out to clubs together. Him sheltering me from unwanted attention. Him, most likely, giving a confusing message to interested parties. Then I met his boyfriend, in private. Yes, beauty (Peter) and the beast (a leather clad police man complete with motorbike). I was so young and innocent it all washed over me. If Peter had been a girl it would have been all the same to me. Except it turned out not to be. As an aside: Needless to say the man who later became my son’s father detested Peter. Peter detested FOS. Warned me off. Peter was kind, gentle. Our apartments and beds, divided by a wall, were next to each other. Sometimes he’d send me little morse codes by knocking at said wall. Funny isn’t it, how some people, even if you only know them briefly, have such an amazing impact on you. Wonder what has become of him.

      Going back to your ‘gender stereotypes’. There was another gay guy. As hard as nails. He worked for FOS. Burnt a hole in my favourite coat. Taxi. Paris. But that’s another story. He was funny. Very. Intelligent. Very. Amusing. Very. And an arsehole. Working in travel he fucking fucked his way round the world. Boys. Which is fine. Most the time he was as drunk as the famed skunk – so whether he got it up is anyone’s guess. I’d like to meet him again. But I won’t. If I had to put a bet, Nick: The guy is dead. Not on account of his age.

      As to my recent and beloved GG. Refined, cultured. And a severely damaged case. Pity. Great great pity that his (female) psychiatrist advised him to shed people. If I ever get my hands on that woman (I won’t) she’ll have another thing coming.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — May 10, 2014 @ 18:55 | Reply

      • You’re right that some gay men don’t subvert gender stereotypes at all, in fact quite the opposite. I’ve known gay men who were fanatically masculine and extremely misogynist. But I’ve also known lots of gay men who challenger gender roles all the way.

        Comment by nick — May 10, 2014 @ 20:47 | Reply

  2. There is no harm is there in throwing the light of our eyes on whatever. Gender has been made far too important, it controls everything. I ask why? Age another thing that is bothering me – not from my viewpoint but from a man who makes me come alive every time I see him. He is married and much younger and his wife is chronically unfaithful. It never stopped men of the species did it. It stops me. but it also makes me very sad and I don’t have the answer to that.
    I’ve known many gay men, they became my friends/running buddies/confidantes and theatre partners. Sex ruins a lot of relationships – bad or good. Sex I mean.
    I feel a blog post coming on about this, must mull.

    Comment by wisewebwoman — May 10, 2014 @ 20:09 | Reply

  3. Yet I know some gay men who aren’t so particular about their looks. But the ones that are, often look like models. Perfectly groomed and lovely.

    Comment by reneejohnsonwrites — May 10, 2014 @ 21:53 | Reply

    • I sit firmly in your first camp

      Comment by John going gently — May 12, 2014 @ 17:02 | Reply

    • You too will be answered. Imagine yourself in a queue – and no, I am not playing Vivaldi’s eternal Four Seasons.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — May 15, 2014 @ 13:38 | Reply

  4. What I find interesting is people I originally knew as straight that now consider themselves gay. There are a couple that go back as far as high school and both men and women. The men are now either over-developed body builders or fashion plates and the women all appear quite masculine.

    Comment by shackman — May 12, 2014 @ 12:42 | Reply

    • There is a reply smouldering inside me, Chuck. Let’s hope it won’t sink like a soufflee by the time I deliver.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — May 15, 2014 @ 13:39 | Reply

      • Smouldering? Sounds ominous – fire away 🙂

        Comment by shackman — May 19, 2014 @ 15:24 | Reply

  5. Lol
    Just read nick’s
    “I’m fascinated by gay men as well, because they’ve so often adopted a really distinctive and beautiful look of the sort you just don’t see on the average straight guy.”
    Pissed my pants…………..he obviously has not seen me in my foul combats, crocs and shitty t shirt

    Comment by John going gently — May 12, 2014 @ 17:00 | Reply

    • Me too. Not in a bad way. Will expand when I get more than a minute. Stay on the look out – the ship coming in probably sometime tonight.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — May 15, 2014 @ 13:41 | Reply

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