Bitch on the Blog

November 20, 2014

Blot on my landscape

Filed under: Atmosphere,Happiness — bitchontheblog @ 17:34
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Yesterday’s outburst makes me deeply ashamed of myself. Please don’t think the worse of me. Or do.

I have taken down the text of “Frazzled”. Those of you who commented I will answer. As the Angel pointed out my being ‘frazzled’  more to do with my current lack of vision (in the literal sense), the result being an easily ignited irritability. Even the bloody Basil (which only served as a symbol) let its leaves hang overnight.

Anyway, my dear dear mother called me this afternoon, troubled since she can’t stand anything coming between us. Neither can I. In many ways, as old as I am myself, it’s comforting that she picked up the phone first. Reminds you of olden times: Being cared for. Run to mother. She’ll blow it better. So, once more all is good, all is well. All I now need is my clarity back. Equilibrium will follow.

As an aside to all of those of you affected by physical/mental ailment, discomfort and misery (yours or that of those close to you): One thing I have learnt that you can’t compare one person’s pain to another – in the MOMENT. In the moment we are utterly self absorbed. The moment I stub my toe and it hurts I don’t feel better because I am not dying of brain cancer. I know it sounds awful. But it’s the truth. Only when that toe stops throbbing do we get life (not least that of others) back into perspective.

On which happy note: Do not drop an ice pick (on your toe).



  1. Please put Frazzled back. It was delightful! We saw into you & YOU are delightful. It brought me many smiles. I was YOU when I read it. You have a light touch that makes the other blogs heavy.

    Comment by bikehikebabe66 — November 20, 2014 @ 17:55 | Reply

    • Errr I mean I was your mother. I keep forgetting, on purpose, I’ve moved up a generation (or two).

      Comment by bikehikebabe66 — November 20, 2014 @ 18:07 | Reply

  2. I never could stand any discord between me and anyone, but especially my mom (with whom I rarely had any discord at all). I’m glad you have some perspective (if only in the figurative sense). What the heck is wrong with your eye?

    Comment by Lorna's Voice — November 20, 2014 @ 18:22 | Reply

  3. i completely missed it!

    you seem to be a bit in the wars. i hope things pick up soon

    Comment by kylie — November 20, 2014 @ 21:34 | Reply

    • Sorry she took it off & you missed it. It was touching & funny.

      Comment by bikehikebabe66 — November 21, 2014 @ 00:31 | Reply

  4. Saying “there’s always someone worse off than yourself” has never helped anyone. Have you only just learned this? You must have had a very sheltered life.
    Hope you’ll feel better soon and that you and your Mama remain on good terms.

    Comment by Friko — November 20, 2014 @ 22:34 | Reply

    • Saying “there’s always someone worse off than yourself” has never helped anyone. Wha??? U has never said this.

      “Have you only just learned this? You must have had a very sheltered life.” You can’t be referring to Ursula–???

      Comment by bikehikebabe66 — November 21, 2014 @ 00:26 | Reply

      • U gets along fine with her mama. She even agrees with her when she really disagrees, if you read Frazzled. (Ursula put that back.)

        Comment by bikehikebabe66 — November 21, 2014 @ 00:29 | Reply

  5. What a pity! Listen to BHB.

    Comment by rummuser — November 21, 2014 @ 01:27 | Reply

  6. Very true about being so self-absorbed in your pain that someone else’s possibly worse pain is totally irrelevant. Or any other such well-meaning responses. And only the person in pain can truly understand what it’s like.

    Comment by nick — November 21, 2014 @ 14:06 | Reply

  7. Frazzled did me good:It put some present problems in perspective. And listening to this put some ancient problems into some perspective:

    Hope the visual problem is soon sorted. I understand some of the frustration as iwas gradually losing clear vision post cataractoperation until they zapped me with a lazer.

    Comment by magpie11 — November 21, 2014 @ 16:15 | Reply

  8. I wish I’d seen it. The inner BOTB. I just hate pain comparisons. Meaningless. Unhelpful. Passive aggressive. I won my own pain/loss/devastation thanks. It is unique to me. Starving children in Africa don’t come into it at all.

    Comment by wisewebwoman — November 25, 2014 @ 02:12 | Reply

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