Bitch on the Blog

August 12, 2015

In motion

Filed under: Amusement,Atmosphere,Human condition — bitchontheblog @ 17:23
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“When floor is full please use bins”

Occasionally life should be played in ‘fast backward’. You know: When, magically and at a touch of a button, all the vomit you have just relieved yourself off goes up stream again.



  1. CM had a shingles shot but got the shingles anyway. If she suffered she’d never let on. She even said in her post that she “thinks the itching is funny”. She’s unreal. I prefer real people that don’t make me think my full life (4 kids, 10 grandkids etc. etc.) is lacking compared to her life in her tiny, ugly apt with her computer. But more power to her if she’s happy with that. Sorry about my opinion.
    YOU are a REAL person which I prefer.

    Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 12, 2015 @ 18:23 | Reply

    • You say: “Sorry about my opinion”. My dear Cynthia, never ever apologize for your opinion. That’s the beauty of opinions. They are ours. And ours only.

      Indeed I am a REAL person, my coat worn ragged like that of a much loved teddy bear. But then, arguably, so is Jean. Worn, that is. And real.

      What I can gather from all those years I have got to know the two of you I think you are at two ends of a spectrum. You are hot, Jean tends to be on the cool side. It’s not something [the cool side] I myself find easy. In fact, truth be told, chill is the one thing that I can’t really cope with, don’t know how to deal with. Having said that, I am sure Jean (and should you, Jean, read this, better to talk about you in your hearing than behind your back) doesn’t mean to come across as cold shouldered. It’s just that some people do.

      And in a moment of need she has shown me kindness by practical means. Maybe I lit her fire – if only briefly.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 12, 2015 @ 19:24 | Reply

      • I wrote my comment knowing she won’t read it. I don’t think she reads your blog. I’ve never seen a comment by her on a post of yours. The ones she reads are by people like her, –except Ramana who is social. CM’s friends are computer generated.

        Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 12, 2015 @ 21:30 | Reply

        • “…computer generated” is the wrong term. Her friends are via the Internet.

          Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 12, 2015 @ 21:39 | Reply

  2. wow.
    “in her tiny ugly apartment”. “she’s unreal.” “I prefer real people…”

    and so … apparently computer friends are not real friends? in your opinion? is that for everybody? or just for jean?

    because that is news to me. I consider friends people that I have warm feelings for and interaction with on many levels. personal or otherwise.
    some of us are not lucky enough to have “4 kids 10 grandkids etc. etc.”

    I lived a very lonely life moving around so much. I made many acquaintances but few friends. there was never enough time.
    I treasure my internet friends. and apparently you must enjoy yours too or you wouldn’t send out so many emails to them all.

    I think i’m about to risk being put on your ‘enemy’ list BHB. and the things you said about jean in the recent past make me sorry about that.
    i’d hate to be your enemy. I received some really hateful remarks about her from you. and I noticed they were copied to everybody else as well.
    I hope I won’t be the subject of those kinds of emails to everybody now.

    I don’t talk about my friends the way you talk about your friend jean. in this comment above … or in all the others.

    I especially don’t publish comments on public blogs about them … regardless of my freedom to spout my ‘opinion’ that ursula holds in such high esteem.
    I thought ursula was very kind to both you and jean here. kinder than i’m being to you right now actually. it’s rather unlike me to do this.

    normally I would never write this kind of comment. but I’ve been silent for a long time. and this latest comment just hit me wrong somehow.
    there have been worse ones that you’ve shared with everybody. so why I choose to defend her on this one I don’t know.

    but I don’t like back biters. in high school or now.

    you can never fully know what’s in someone’s heart. you can think you know them. and you seem to feel you know jean completely.
    I know you’ve known each other and have been friends for years. that’s why it’s all so puzzling really.

    but you might not know this…

    in all your tirades of her to your email list of people… listing all her shortcomings… I never once got an email from her complaining about you.
    or indeed one saying anything hateful or hurtful about you. she suffered your personal attacks about her to everybody in silence.

    perhaps that’s why I’ve gone off the deep end and am publically trying to defend my friend here.

    and now… I guess I feel that even though i’m ‘JUST’ her computer friend… (I don’t have children or a big family) and apparently have not in your book a quality life either … if judged by those standards. but I enjoy my life. just as it is. and I think she truly enjoys hers. and her one child and son in law love her very much. as does andy.

    and i’m glad you enjoy your life so much.
    the phrase ‘ just live and let live ‘ comes to mind.

    I know I should not be butting in here. it’s not my intention to stir this pot.

    but I know enough to know when someone is being mean… and disguising it as a right to their free opinion.
    yes. you may say it. you have the right to say it. but it’s not kind.

    and I want to say i’m sorry for you. that you have to feel that way and say the things you do about jean.

    it makes you look small and petty. and I think you’re a much bigger and better person than that.
    you’re quite beautiful. amazingly young looking. and active. and funny. and obviously you’re a well loved mother and grandmother.

    it’s just that… you can never build yourself up by tearing someone else down. that’s my opinion.

    and ursula. please delete it if you feel you should.
    it’s your blog after all. not a public forum for me.

    Comment by tammy j — August 13, 2015 @ 03:40 | Reply

  3. wow! this is interesting! once upon a time i knew all the ins & outs of my blogging fraternity but they all drifted from blogging and now i dont see any drama at all. and now this. second hand drama. i wish i knew the details.
    i have seen jean around and she strikes me as…..very controlled.

    not sure about vomit going back up, its bad enough on the way out


    Comment by kylie — August 13, 2015 @ 04:00 | Reply

  4. Thank you, tammy! I love you with all my heart, as you well know.

    About my apartment. I don’t care what it looks like and what other people think of it. I love it dearly. It’s my home and is connected with so many precious memories.

    Comment by cheerfulmonk — August 13, 2015 @ 05:02 | Reply

  5. The real question is why BHB says, “I prefer real people that don’t make me think my full life (4 kids, 10 grandkids etc. etc.) is lacking compared to her life” Why, BHB, would you feel your life is lacking just because I operate differently than you? In fact, I’ve never criticized you but as far as I know I’ve been supportive over the years and have always said different people like different things, one size doesn’t fit all. Why did you suddenly start attacking me? If you don’t like my lifestyle, why not just say we’re no longer a good match and move on? Why does it bother you so much? Why not just let go?

    Comment by cheerfulmonk — August 13, 2015 @ 06:35 | Reply

  6. Well, Sweethearts. That post went well then.

    Forgive me for smiling at the fallout among you considering what the original post was about which was “fast backward”.

    As once or twice before, on this blog, things have erupted between Cynthia aka BHB and Jean aka Cheerful Monk (forgive me for talking about the two of you in third person). The reason for this I can only guess at. So let’s take it from the top and my observations will be as fair as I can be. I’d also like to stress, and this is important, that I am fond of all the players in this. However, being fond of someone does not make anyone exempt from criticism.

    So, taking up Tammy’s line of thought and since she put Cynthia’s email missives into the public arena for discussion: It is true, Cynthia, and in your heart of hearts you know this, that it is not right to stir things up behind someone’s back.

    You clearly have a gripe about Jean. And that is ok. These things happen – even within family. What is not ok that you impart a lot of information about her (a friend) to people who don’t actually know her in the flesh. My main question here: What is your purpose, Cynthia? Other than venting your spleen. Which, and it is no secret, I too love to do. But, in some instances, it’s better to keep it private. Say, if you vented your ‘Jean spleen’ to me and max another friend in the privacy of our email boxes – fine. But to go wholesale (which until Tammy pointed this out I didn’t know) is questionable. Once more, because I know how easily people take the wrong end of the stick, may I remind you, Cynthia, that I am very fond of you and that I hope you will take my words not as an affront but as an attempt to clear the air.

    On the question of “internet friends”, Tammy. I don’t believe that Cynthia means to belittle those. I think her emphasis is on Jean (possibly) ONLY having friends in the ether rather than the hug-you-on-my-doorstep variety.

    What it boils down to is that Cynthia appears to be exasperated at Jean’s lifestyle which is so clearly different from hers. Not to mention that they are diametrically different in temperament. Even Jean, in her measured way, suggesting “we are no longer a good match – why not just move on” can – and I know this – be infuriating to someone like Cynthia. I too find it very hard to leave a relationship be when I really like someone. I rather try to work out differences, reconcile, to the bitter end.

    I don’t know. My gut instinct being that if I were them – and considering that they only live a stone throw away from each other – I’d say: Meet up for coffee (or whatever is your poison) and talk to each other. But, and I hope Cynthia will forgive me for this indiscretion: I gather from her last mail that Jean is not exactly forthcoming to invite someone (Cynthia) in who turned up on her doorstep to help Jean out with an errant. I too do find that peculiar. Oddly this particular scenario, as described by Cynthia this morning, does remind me of a friend (well, sort of friend – recently acquired) who is jumpy in a rather unsettling way.

    The above was probably as helpful and instructive as a bowl of cold jellified porridge. Let me know.


    Comment by bitchontheblog — August 13, 2015 @ 10:47 | Reply

    • “I too find it very hard to leave a relationship be when I really like someone. I rather try to work out differences, reconcile, to the bitter end.” That’s you, not Cynthia. When she started attacking me on my blog I tried phoning her — Tom answered, she wasn’t available to come to the phone and she didn’t phone back, so I emailed her asking what was going on, why the attacks. She wrote back saying don’t bother emailing her any more because she was no longer going to read my emails.

      And when she came to the door the other day I was in the midst of a phone call to our wireless company getting a new phone for Andy. I told her that and gave her a hug (I’m a hugger, just ask my teddy bear). So she left. I assume Tom was in the car waiting for her.

      The issue is she hates my home and my lifestyle and I love them both. A lot of the things she’s said about me aren’t true, they’re just good stories, but there’s not much point in arguing because the details aren’t the issue. The issue is she doesn’t like me, so it’s time to move on. I can no longer share anything with her because I can’t trust her not to be trying to gather information to be used in further attacks. Not exactly a foundation for a friendship.

      Sad, but it happens. We both have one foot in the grave and another on a banana peel, so it’s just one more thing to mourn.

      Comment by cheerfulmonk — August 13, 2015 @ 16:20 | Reply

      • I admire you Jean, for loving your life, but feel bad that “Andy”/ Andrew didn’t get to lead the life he wanted–a house, a garden, more of a family, maybe friends, live, not like your Internet ones. (They are fun but it’s difficult to carry on a conversation via the Internet.) I feel lacking that I can’t accept all that.

        Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 15, 2015 @ 17:39 | Reply

        • Thanks for the chuckle — I’ll share it with Andy when he gets home. He laughed out loud at your previous idea that he goes up to the land every day to escape from me. We’ve added it to our store of family jokes.

          Comment by cheerfulmonk — August 15, 2015 @ 18:43 | Reply

  7. I find it funny and sad to read this dialogue –

    I’m sorry BHB but I’m with tammy mostly on my Internet friendships, the fact I live alone, do not have any children which means no grandkids [past circumstances that none of your business, or anyone else in this mash-up]. I got onto the Net in the late 1990s [why again not your business] but it was a saviour and remains that.

    I’m sorry CM/Jean that you are being persecuted via this typing pad [computer screen] because I see you and Andy as great communicators, I love the story of your life, your forest and stuff like that.

    That is where BHB needs to be – on a blog with her stories; her ideals, her life – not using someone elses life to create – not just Jean, Tammy,. me but also the guy who lives in your street – who needs to “watched” – yep tell us about the neighbourhood watch BUT on a blog. I might post a bit about my neighbourhood one day – particularly that across the road is a silent place in w/end – but noisy with kids at the early childhood centre and carpark for doctors et al clinic…

    Comment by cedar51 — August 14, 2015 @ 23:37 | Reply

  8. Thank you to those who commented on this shit storm in someone’s overflowing cup. So very disappointing that Cynthia aka BHB doesn’t appear to have the guts to ride out what she started.

    From now on I shall give no one a hook to hijack my posts. Instead of which I shall focus on wildlife.


    Comment by bitchontheblog — August 15, 2015 @ 12:15 | Reply

    • Hijack your posts? No way! You are SO acceptable.

      Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 15, 2015 @ 17:43 | Reply

      • …and so funny 😀 .

        Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 15, 2015 @ 19:08 | Reply

  9. Jean aka Cheerful Monk, I think you are wonderful like everyone thinks. I won’t stop loving you. ( btw when I was laid-up in bed, you called to entertain me!) I use your advice constantly. I have signs around the house with me/stick figure doing something I forget to do & holding a sign that says YAY! You are Super-Woman to me.

    Comment by bikehikebabe66 — August 15, 2015 @ 17:51 | Reply

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