Bitch on the Blog

May 29, 2016

Futile

Filed under: Communication,Integrity — bitchontheblog @ 13:20

A couple of days I promised a fellow blogger to take her and her vanity apart.

Alas, I won’t indulge her. Anyway, I am not a blog murderer and gentle souls need to be indulged lest they bruise.

Her indignation (she is easily offended) was sparked by my hinting that her blog takes some considerable effort to (physically)  read. In fact I might have called this post STYLE OVER SUBSTANCE. 

Here is what I wrote and if you, any of my other readers (and I mean it), find that my criticism was over the top, could have been worded differently please do let me know. Blogging is NOT a one way street and all of us (well, those capable to do so) can learn from each other.

The subject matter was “WHY”. No doubt what Lin wrote was very interesting, however … if “style” takes over from “content” then please do not shoot this messenger.

“I wonder WHY you write in that (to me) so terribly irritating style of wide spacing. It literally does my head in. Since you appear to have an interest in music may I say that your layout reminds me of Stockhausen. And that’s not a compliment. Paragraphs are there for a reason – not poetic licence.

Secondly, and it speaks volumes about you, WHY are your readers’ comments virtually undecipherable against the black, orange and yellow background in the box? Yet, your answers are clear- black on white.

On both counts, Lin, and this is not an attack just an observation, you are inconsiderate to those who take the time.

U”

Some people go the way of least resistance. Hence the lady in question has not only deleted my comment (so unsure she is of herself she moderates before your comment sees the shadow of her comment box); she has now barred me to comment on her blog. I rarely laugh AT people but this was the perfect occasion. Laughing is good for you. So, Lin, thanks for that. However, your behaving like a toddler who (understandably) doesn’t yet have a grasp on the world around him is not becoming in a person of advanced years.

Since we are at it: Some time ago you took me to task (again on Ramana’s blog) as to my mentioning “the artistic temperament”. I promised you a reply. A promise I didn’t keep since, on reflection, it is a subject as tedious to write about as the artistic temperament itself. Still, better late than never. And before you start crying let me hand you a tissue. I am surrounded by people who create. I, personally, only cook. Someone has to. To keep all those artistes in fine fettle. Yes, the artistes in my life. Family, friends (I have no foes). There are those [artistes] who are robust and their own hardest critic. Which is going over the top the other end. Not to say counterproductive. And then there are those (the majority) where you quickly learn how to walk on eggshells. Dear, dear, dear, dear. Thy halo shall not be overcast by the slightest shadow of doubt over the merit of what you “create”. It’s hard work being round artists. It really is. And that’s before there is a pram in the hallway.

Where were we? “Consideration”. If I do have one pet hate it’s people being inconsiderate. In the little small ways of life. So, and please, Lin, take this as it’s meant – kindly, benignly – if you double/triple space your blog prose so I feel like running a hurdle race you are not doing yourself any favours. Sure, there will be those who fawn to you. Take it from me: Forms (like manners) are there to be observed to make life easy. How conceited can one (you) be to think that what you write is so interesting that a reader will be seasick on the journey. Remember, we are NOT talking content, we are talking STYLE. Let’s put it into another context: If you wear a terrific dress so terrific that no one takes any notice of YOU, the person, wearing it wouldn’t it be better to wear a bin liner?

Anyway, Lin, you have enriched my life in ways you don’t have the guts to appreciate. Which reminds me: Unless I am mistaken you do live in Germany, don’t you? How do you survive in an environment so outspoken only surpassed by Scandinavia?

U

 

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14 Comments »

  1. Hello,
    If people do not wish to come under critical scrutiny then they should refrain from posting. It is really as simple as that.

    I have just been criticised elsewhere. I replied, denying the criticism and explained, withsome words of more than a few syllables, why I had written the words that I had. No replyysofar but a response from former pupil who suggested that I have not changed one bit since 1971.

    It’s interesting how easily people take offence because thay have not read carefully enough. You never did write “beyond the pale”.

    Comment by magpie11 — May 29, 2016 @ 15:09 | Reply

    • Your first sentence so very true, Magpie.

      However, I do acknowledge that some people have a permanent fishbone stuck in their throat. I’d be very happy to slap them between the shoulders, dangle them up or down, give them a glass of water or – worst case scenario, take them to A&E. Do not think that those efforts are always appreciated. Some people rather suffocate on their own vomit.

      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 16:17 | Reply

  2. This is just to let you know that I have read your post and now have the full picture of what transpired.

    Comment by rummuser — May 29, 2016 @ 15:30 | Reply

    • Good, Ramana. The crux with taking down comments yet commenting on the comment erased – and doing so on a third party’s blog – is that it does not constitute fair play. It doesn’t give the reader a chance to evaluate the merit of either.

      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 15:50 | Reply

  3. Interesting this….I was taken to task by a blogger because she thought I was talking about her in a post. It did my head in. I wasn’t of course. I was generalizing about Oscar Night and the dimwits who watch all of it and thigh slap their way through the misogyny. But if the cap fits and all that………
    XO
    WWW

    Comment by wisewebwoman — May 29, 2016 @ 22:05 | Reply

    • Yes, WWW. I think the real shame, as amplified by your example, that some people take mockery, and it’s more serious brother “criticism” (may it be as constructive as intended), on some aspect of them as their WHOLE person being “attacked”. It’s so, I don’t know, stupid and limiting. Not to mention short sighted. Oh dear, I have just said something less than flattering to those for whom the shoe fits …

      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 15:48 | Reply

  4. Was thinking this was directed at me for a moment. Guess my vanity will survive another day.

    Comment by Looney — May 29, 2016 @ 22:27 | Reply

    • “Directed” at you, Looney? Are you crazy or something?

      Don’t worry about vanity. It’s a survivor. Rarely will it be suppressed or morph into something bigger than itself.

      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 15:55 | Reply

  5. Ursula, Ursula, Ursula. How I’ve missed your outspoken wit. I’m glad I returned to this post. It made me smile. We open ourselves to comments, then expect them all to be kind. I don’t normally leave those meant to be antagonizing, but, perhaps I can suggest the words within the parentheses took it into the personal zone. But I could be wrong. Happy summer!

    Comment by reneejohnsonwrites — May 31, 2016 @ 01:36 | Reply

    • Renee, Renee, Renee – how I have missed you in my comment box (I hope more than you have missed me in yours) and your appreciation of my outspokeness. Some get me, some don’t. Some prefer marshmallow, others (say, the Angel) can’t have enough chilli. One can’t hold against anyone if they don’t appreciate you. Look at comedians. On the whole it’s easy to make me laugh (not always with disdain, mostly with appreciation of their intelligence, way with words, whatever): yet, occasionally, someone’s efforts are lost on me. Doesn’t mean he/she is no good.

      Happy Summer to you too. It’s been a long time waiting. Parts of your beloved France (look at Paris pictures) under water. Yesterday I phoned the motherland to see if any of my contingent is dry. They are..

      Hug,
      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 15:59 | Reply

      • Yes, I’ve been watching news coverage of Paris and checking on friends. One was on a barge in the river and had to abandon it for shelter. Glad to hear your contingency is safe, your humor intact, and that I’ve been missed as well. Hugs right back!

        Comment by reneejohnsonwrites — June 4, 2016 @ 16:50 | Reply

  6. you are right, the blog is hard to read. I notice some websites are also difficult and I wonder whether the owners realise that people just stop reading if it takes any effort

    Comment by kylie — June 2, 2016 @ 10:36 | Reply

    • I don’t mind making an “effort” reading. You never know what gems you may find in the undergrowth. What I do mind is someone arbitrarily not accommodating the reader when their “style” doesn’t serve any purpose.

      Loved your bread, Kylie.

      U

      Comment by bitchontheblog — June 4, 2016 @ 15:46 | Reply

  7. interspersing interlude in dialogue-bouncing,… and don’t ask me what d-b/ing is – it just popped into my tiny weeny head 🙂

    Comment by cedar51 — June 6, 2016 @ 03:41 | Reply


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