Bitch on the Blog

October 8, 2016

Point Blank

Filed under: Future,Integrity — bitchontheblog @ 20:46

How many times in your recent life have you stared? At anything, at anyone.

Say, yourself. No mirror required.

Neither do you need to be particularly old, terminally ill, morbid, down in the mouth, indeed upbeat, to do so [stare at yourself]. And shake your head in wonderment.

Upshot being, Sweethearts, I am going to wind it down. The only reason I mention this because one blogger, John, who I am very fond of and a veteran and prolific blogger himself, recently mentioned how sad it is when long standing blog friends fade away without a word of explanation.

Explanation? Sometimes there isn’t one. Suddenly you come to a halt. Not because, like many a whining blogger with blogger’s block, I have nothing to say. I DO [have plenty to say, and would love to keep saying it]. However, I have realized that frivolity doesn’t get you anywhere, other than supplying plenty of amusement and diversion. Nah, what I need is discipline, focus. Not distraction.

Basically I am going down the toilet.

Hugs, hisses and kisses,




  1. The flip side is that I was just advised about the possibility of connecting to someone who died in 2014. Perhaps I should come up with an app that lets people keep posting beyond the grave?

    Comment by Looney — October 8, 2016 @ 21:08 | Reply

    • A side note: A bit of blogging presence is not at all incompatible with discipline. On the other hand, with out discipline, you will never have enough time. But otherwise, we all must make choices about how we use our time. My day, however, is never quite complete without a little of U.

      Comment by Looney — October 9, 2016 @ 01:44 | Reply

      • My dear Looney, that last sentence of yours proves that you are able (and willing) to charm birds out of their tree. Don’t call me cheap, but it’s enough to make me reconsider and fly once more.


        Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:56 | Reply

  2. I’d post more but I have long tried to stay away from posts on our election – it causes too many folks to get stuck on dumb and chases civility out the door. Beyond that, I think I will start blogging a bit more

    Comment by shackman — October 8, 2016 @ 21:41 | Reply

    • Yes, Shackman, you should blog more. Two (or more) things I love about your posts that they are YOU, real content, no bullshit. With a brain behind it.

      Talking about your “election”. Here is a little anecdote I wouldn’t call so much amusing as educational:

      One or two days ago I left a comment in response to another commentator (UK national paper). This was all in the wake of yet another guff by you know who. The commentator argued that DT’s (no, not dynamite, more a damp squib) aberrations, forcing himself on the unsuspecting, are on a par with Hillary staying married to a man who cheated on her. PARDON?

      So I left the following (twice – because the guy just wouldn’t shut up further down the thread) and please do let me know what you think. The words “oral sex” being those of the commentator as is what I put in quotation marks below.

      There is a difference between forcing yourself on someone and receiving “oral” or any other sex, freely given.

      “Poor judgement which surely applies equally to his wife for staying married …” . As the philosopher says: Each marriage has their own secret. One which no outsider is privy to.

      It was for Hillary (and her husband) only to decide what works for them, not for YOU to judge.


      So far so great. Within few hours my sentiment was up voted hundreds of times – more than any other. What happens? The guy took his comment down – and with it, as are the rules of that particular paper, all comments left to him.

      Did I feel deflated? Yes, and no. Yes, because we all like to be validated. No, because at least now that drivel he spouted won’t be seen any longer.

      The not so United States are vast. Unimaginably so for a European. I therefore don’t think so much of you as a “collective” yet, obviously, when voting for the next president you are expected to unite.

      Whoever said “We live in interesting times” meant it was a curse, not a blessing.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 14:00 | Reply

      • How about the best of times, the worst of times?

        Your posted comment was spot on. Theirs – the Clintons – is simply a marriage of convenience IMO. And family secrets? Years ago on a right wing radio broadcast the host described HRC as a “muff diver” ( his term) in no uncertain terms. Bisexual at best. The host was a respected conservative who has since retired due to advanced age. He was involved in the Watergate affair so that gives you an idea of his age. Were the comments true? Dunno but I never heard or read a denial.

        This election is making it very difficult for us to unite – both candidates are so widely despised many of us would prefer a “None of the above” candidate. I suspect we have finally outgrown our two-party system.

        Comment by shackman — October 9, 2016 @ 15:07 | Reply

  3. I hope you don’t leave us forever. 😦

    I’m in a different place than you are. I believe in frivolity and my main discipline is blogging every day. As usual, one size doesn’t fit all. Best of luck whatever you decide to do.

    Comment by Cheerful Monk — October 8, 2016 @ 22:11 | Reply

    • Dear Jean, one day I will leave everyone forever. Not willingly but forced.

      Frivolity? I wouldn’t say like you do that I “believe in” it, but I sure do enjoy it.

      The difference between you and me that you have time and money to indulge your every whim. I have to be careful with my resources.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:57 | Reply

    • I know. Andy and I were extremely lucky. We were born at a good time and were reasonably poor when we were kids. We didn’t expect life to be easy and enjoyed working and saving. It turned out to be a winning combination. I didn’t expect old age to be this great.

      Comment by Cheerful Monk — October 9, 2016 @ 18:47 | Reply

    • In fact, a book I’m listening to right now reminds me that during the height of the Cold War about 50% of Americans thought they would never live to see old age. They would die in a nuclear war. I was wrong, of course, which is one reason I say we can’t believe everything we think. 🙂

      Comment by Cheerful Monk — October 9, 2016 @ 21:42 | Reply

  4. Nooooo! you cant go!

    do what you need to do, Ursula, I wouldn’t hold you back. But can we connect by facebook or something?

    Comment by Kylie — October 9, 2016 @ 01:32 | Reply

    • You are right, Kylie. Who was I kidding? Indeed I “can’t go”. Holy caboly. Intention is one thing, implementation another. I can unblock a toilet, I can’t follow my own resolve.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 14:02 | Reply

  5. Why must you go? I’ve considerably reduced presence on blog, but overall, body of work is good. Take some antacid and hang out with us a while longer…

    Comment by reneejohnsonwrites — October 9, 2016 @ 02:16 | Reply

    • I once had a friend. He was gorgeous, gay, off his rocker, an anchor on a TV station which shall remain anonymous (not in the UK). Two things he swore on: His psychiatrist, and antacid to cure all ills. I was intrigued then. I am intrigued now.

      Better wing it over to yours in a minute. And thanks for pepping me up.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:57 | Reply

  6. Of course, you can “go” but why – making a blog post, is for “you” to write what you want, for whatever reason…and you of course will get plenty of replies that you may not like, or you may just love. Each commentator is of course an individual and may well blow a different kind of wind instrument which just adds variety to our respective life.

    So I’ll allow you a short holiday and expect to see you return before the early winter or early summer is throwing itself at us all…

    Comment by cedar51 — October 9, 2016 @ 07:11 | Reply

    • Yes, it is autumn. A season dotted with spots of melancholy. Think of me as a leaf (not a leave).


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:56 | Reply

      • okay – the hibernation holiday 🙂

        Comment by cedar51 — October 9, 2016 @ 19:29 | Reply

  7. As long as u leave in peace and not in huff. I’ve always enjoyed u. Sometimes didn’t agree. Sometimes did.

    Comment by Wisewebwoman — October 9, 2016 @ 12:51 | Reply

    • I am never in a huff. It’s one of my worst points. It’s why I keep coming back for more of whatever is served on life’s platter.

      Come to think of it, it’s a good job I am not in charge. Otherwise the world would be a place akin to paradise.

      Keep strong, WWW.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:55 | Reply

  8. I will miss you. I hope that you will not stop commenting on blog posts of your blog friends.

    Comment by rummuser — October 9, 2016 @ 13:05 | Reply

    • I now feel ashamed. You “will miss me”. Well, my dear Ramana, you can’t keep a good woman away from her stove. Even if she temporarily throws in the towel.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 13:54 | Reply

  9. Well, if you desist then so be it……. I desisted and no one seems to have been any the worse for it, I certainly haven’t,. However I suspect that others as well as myself will miss you greatly…. iI remember the impact of your pre blogging comments, which I am sure to this day many did not really read very carefully, and relished them and have relished your writing since those days.

    I’m pleased that I “met” you and treasure our ” and to have become a friend.

    What DID we do before the advent of “THe Net”?

    Comment by magpie11 — October 9, 2016 @ 15:02 | Reply

    • Yes, Magpie, interesting who has fallen by the wayside since those early days, and who has chipped away at making friends. I like stamina, staying the course, giving others a chance (benefit of the doubt).

      There is one person I have been taught to hold in contempt. And it’s not Con. He and I did come to some understanding. It’s someone who, years down the line, and I only learnt this a few months ago, still has it in for me.

      “What did we do before the advent of the net?”. We did what presented itself then.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — October 9, 2016 @ 16:02 | Reply

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