Bitch on the Blog

July 31, 2017


Who’d have thunk it? My blogging tyre is flat. Not because I can’t think of anything to say. Quite the opposite. I always fire on all cylinders – yet, the desire to press “publish” momentarily eludes me. “Delete” does me fine.

The joy has gone.

Why? Most certainly not on account of bloggers who cheerfully “follow” me even if they don’t comment. Most certainly not on account of those who comment here – with unfailing wit, perception, occasional mockery, always thoughtful.

However, and I don’t like admitting to what I perceive a weakness, there have been forces out in the blogging world which have achieved the unthinkable – namely, my, the unsinkable’s, reluctance to put myself into the public arena any further.

Looking back over my life, I have never been bullied. I am not the type. Yet there is one blogger, ably supported by a weak cast, who has shown me the vile side of life on the playground which constitutes blogging.

I am torn. I could name him and shame him. But then I’d be playing HIS game. Makes you think, doesn’t it, how someone else’s maliciousness tempts you to repay in kind. It is to my utter, total, most heartfelt regret that I have decided not to fall for that ruse – as much pleasure as it would give me to tear the guy and his accomplices apart. He hasn’t got a leg, or any other appendage, to stand on. Still, I’d rather not be a facilitator.

Yes, so my joy communicating on the page has momentarily been stifled. Please don’t send chocolate or other sweet condolences. A lime will suffice.




  1. I want to know who it is! I want to read the transcripts! I want all the detail!

    Ursula, post away on all cylinders. Nothing less will satisfy you and right at the moment the bully is winning

    Comment by kylie — July 31, 2017 @ 10:47 | Reply

    • The bully isn’t “winning”. The bully will bleed. That’s not a threat. It’s a promise.

      You want “transcripts”, Kylie? Maybe. In the meantime, and in real time, El Bulli takes delight in taking down my comments (even the nice ones) only to then comment on them. Tragedy (for him) is that he so entangled in his ego that he is unaware what a fool he is making of himself in front of his other readers (unless they too are so dense they can’t see the irony). Still, as someone dear to my Heart once explained to me (he is a TV anchor far far away with the most wry outlook on life) that it’s better to be a big fish in a small pond than a small fish in a big pond. A friend of mine, also called Ursula, would have bettered him: “It’s better to be a big fish in a big pond”. Her motto in life “Better healthy and wealthy than sick and poor”. May I add that she suffered from, self confessed, forgotten the name this minute disorder. You know: When people look from the outside in?


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 11:09 | Reply

      • I would never expect you to actually give details! I like Ursula’s philosophy but for the life of me don’t k now what she suffered from

        Comment by kylie — July 31, 2017 @ 11:43 | Reply

  2. Anyone that I know?
    I seem to remember a comment of yours (re the Orange One) to the effect that it is sometimes best to smile and not pay back in smilar manner. Keep it up…

    About fish and ponds…. this person appears to be a big frog in a little puddle and due to be squashed by a well placed wellington boot (one of my mother in law’s comments about a (most unchristian) local vicar.

    Have just been called for lunch.

    Comment by magpie11 — July 31, 2017 @ 12:07 | Reply

    • Anyone you know?

      It’s unlikely, Magpie. He has never commented here. Neither will he. Instead he vilifies me on his own blog and in the comment boxes of other bloggers. Even when I keep sthum he brings up my name weeks later. I am some rag to his colour blind, deprived of a sense of smell and bored bull. It’s not so much that he hides behind his mother’s, big sister’s or brother’s apron strings. No, he hides in the safety of the little emperor’s ever so small finger on the delete button. I will say he is intelligent (if not emotionally intelligent), he has interesting, sometimes even commendable views (woe betides me if I agree with him) – and an overblown ego. The type of overblown ego that comes from, deep down, not believing himself being BIG at all. That’s when people start to compensate. Alas, he ain’t no Dustin Hoffman, no Woody Allen. For all I know he is six foot five. Still, let’s leave him the illusion that he has that most amazing sense of humoUr he so prides himself on, he so magnificently fails to display.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 13:12 | Reply

  3. I suppose being intensely curious we would all like to know who he is. But then we would only increase his readership – and that would never do šŸ˜‰

    Comment by mullien — July 31, 2017 @ 13:40 | Reply

    • Thanks for the laugh, Mullien. He is desperate to increase his readership – not least in comparison to one of his minions who appears to delight in being insulted by the blogger in question. Which is, no doubt, why he [blogger in question] is so offensive to all and sundry. As tactics go it’s canny. Through the backdoor as it were. Who doesn’t want to know where the next mud wrestling event is taking place? Even if only a peeping Tom rather than a player.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 13:55 | Reply

  4. A lime? Surely a spelling mistake. A smile is more like it. šŸ™‚

    Comment by rummuser — July 31, 2017 @ 14:36 | Reply

    • Yes, Ramana, trust you to bring a smile to my face. Just like a lime. Not least because it’s green..


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 18:17 | Reply

  5. Oh, I don’t like this opaqueness. It’s about …. Ursula, I don’t share your opinion about him.

    Comment by Iris — July 31, 2017 @ 20:44 | Reply

    • Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 22:01 | Reply

    • Iris, I hope you’ll forgive me for amending your comment. I can’t let an innocent’s name be subjected to slander.

      I have also allowed myself to delete yesterday’s comment in reply to you. I myself crossed a line. Not nice to admit but at least admit it I do – unlike you don’t know who.

      That you are a curtain twitcher still stands.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 1, 2017 @ 05:25 | Reply

  6. Just ignore him. If he’s so negative, why give him any of your mental and emotional space?

    Comment by nick — July 31, 2017 @ 21:15 | Reply

    • Always the voice of reason, Nick. You ask, rightly, why I do give anyone my “mental and emotional space” – negative or not.

      Communication is my metier. It’s my life blood. And if I have to force someone to their knees to engage I will. Within limits. As to the person concerned I am under no illusion. He will not engage. He can’t. It’s beyond his capabilities. That’s what happens to BIG men. Show them the first hurdle, they crumble. At the next hurdle they throw you over.

      As an aside and not to be misunderstood: I am not the only one he treats with a disdain few deserve.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — July 31, 2017 @ 22:10 | Reply

  7. I suspect there are advantages to being relatively anonymous – I read so few and have a small readership base on my own (at least commenters – stats show 20-30 times more readers than commenters) that I do not have any similar issues that I am aware of. There was Lin in Deutschland but she was uniformly crazy and paranoid about what people allegedly said to her. I could care less what she has to say about anything – her unwarranted arrogance was charming for a few seconds but no more. I also learned long ago that not everyone is gonna like you or what you have to say so fuggum.

    Comment by Chuck McConvey — August 1, 2017 @ 14:38 | Reply

    • I wish I were as sanguine as you (and the Angel) are. “Fuggum” I need to adopt. Sounds like straight from Charles Dickens’ mouth. My little Oliver Twist always asking for “more”. Gruel.

      What unnerves me – and I don’t care if it is a weakness (it is) – when people are plainly unfair. Nothing to do with being liked or not. All to do with fair play. How can anyone follow a thread when blogger deletes your comments but lets theirs stand, maligning you in the process? It doesn’t make sense. As the British say: It ain’t cricket. Not even in the home counties. Never mind. I always thought myself a fast learner; yet there are definitely areas of communication I painfully limp behind the rest of the exasperating crowd.

      Yes, Lin. Big sigh. One of those people where you set one foot wrong (not even intentionally) and will never EVER be forgiven. A mindset so foreign to me.



      Comment by bitchontheblog — August 1, 2017 @ 14:56 | Reply

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