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September 9, 2017

Subterfuge

One of the more painful lessons, to me, as life marches on: Learning to bite my tongue.

I don’t think I have ever been needlessly tactless (well, two occasions come to mind – I blush to this day at how thoughtless I was); however I am outspoken. No more. I shall bite my tongue till it’s bled dry. Let my wasteland be your desert.

The beauty of thought that in the privacy of your skull you may think what you like. No one knows. Brilliant. Except that, as the social beings we are, we’d like to give a thought a voice. Yes, sad day, when you start weighing expenditure of energy against gain. Just nod. And say, “Yes, yes, of course”. Yes, yes, yes, yes … Or stay silent. Do not cast a shadow of even the slightest doubt over someone’s assertion. People don’t like it. I could tell you why they don’t like it. However, do remember, see above, I am learning to bite my tongue.

Of course, and that is why my self imposed curse of biting my tongue will last no more than this post, it’s no way to live. The most basic law of physics dictates that that there needs to be friction (think thunder and lightning) for there to be a spark.

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6 Comments »

  1. Friction? Thunder and lightening? I always felt sorry for the fairies when they banged their heads together until someone told me it wa sc atually the angels.

    Am currently trying to teach oungest to lbite his tongue at apropriate moments. I mean to say that I am proud that he has his own opinions about most, if not all, things but survival requires hi to just keep quiet at times.

    Don’t bite your tongue, Ursula because I for one would miss your ascerbity if nothing else.

    Comment by magpie11 — September 9, 2017 @ 18:14 | Reply

  2. a friend of mine used to say “say what you think but say it respectfully”
    I try to do that

    Comment by Kylie — September 10, 2017 @ 07:30 | Reply

  3. My very first official employment at the age of 18 saw me being trained by a veteran supervisor who gave me some great advices that have stood the test of time.
    The first one was that I needed to have two important things arranged for at the earliest to have a successful career in Sales. They were number one, to become the best salesman among the other salesmen in the situation and number two, to have a very healthy bank balance. The latter he went on to explain, so that I could tell a difficult boss who will come along sooner or later, to f*** off.

    His other advices were many but in communication, he adviced that what was said was less important than how it was said, and there are no exceptions to this rule.

    It has been more than half a century since he taught me those lessons, but I still pass these gems to any mentee that comes my way as they are as valid today as they were then.

    Comment by rummuser — September 10, 2017 @ 11:51 | Reply

  4. Indeed, if you refuse to consider any opinion that contradicts your own, you soon become fossilised and brain-dead. Without friction, as you say, there is no spark of imagination or original thinking. If I happened to meet the teenage me, his opinions would probably be unrecognisable, they’ve changed so much.

    Comment by nick — September 10, 2017 @ 15:32 | Reply

  5. I bit my tongue a few days ago by accident. Left it bleeding and made it hard to chew and swallow for two days. Thus, I avoid biting my tongue.

    Comment by Looney — September 10, 2017 @ 23:39 | Reply

  6. Depends on the circumstances IMHO. Typically, though, I trust my friends, to be honest and not bite their tongues. I usually try to do things with respect but there is a good-sized list of people I have eviscerated verbally, I gues. I do not attract people that cannot handle the truth

    Comment by Chuck McConvey — September 11, 2017 @ 00:32 | Reply


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