Bitch on the Blog

November 9, 2017

By Association

Apparently there are many ways of keeping less desirable thoughts and memories at arm’s length. What are they?

Memories triggered by the mention of a date or a place? If you know of how to keep those at bay please do let me know.

Today is the 9th of November 2017. Which, in an earlier missive, I put as 9/11. Nine Eleven. For Europeans, and I don’t know which other countries,  9/11 means 9th November, November being the eleventh month of the year. I am painfully aware that this is not so for Americans. Nine Eleven has taken on such a life of its own that even as a European when I hear Nine Eleven I do NOT think of today’s date. Oh, no. I think of the eleventh of September. The American way.

Places: Dallas, Texas, to me means one thing only (leaving J R Ewing, oil and barons aside). Yes, 22 November 1963. The only time I’d seen adults walking around with grave faces like that, not their usual cheerful selves, was not long before (cue Cuba Crisis). On a personal note, and I have mentioned it before: November, the month, does have a lot to answer for. At least in my life.

How does your brain work?




  1. I was made redundant on the 22nd August, a few years later my son was born on 22/ 8, a few years after that my niece was born on the same date and I remember there was some other event, significant to me at the time which was also 22/ 8 (though I have now forgotten what happened and only remember that it was the same date)
    I mostly don’t remember things by date but by related memories. Strangely enough, my relative’s funerals all seem to be on stinking hot days and I remember nearly melting at a few funerals

    Comment by Kylie — November 9, 2017 @ 21:37 | Reply

    • Melting at a funeral on a stinking hot day? Spare a thought for the one in the coffin, Kylie. There are definitely situations in life that are totally undignified. Being dead at one’s own funeral being one.


      Comment by bitchontheblog — November 10, 2017 @ 09:36 | Reply

  2. You can not stop memories from rising up again and again. The trick is to allow them to arise but not let them affect you in any way like most other thoughts that arise do not affect us. Regular practice of meditation helps achieving this state of being able to observe thoughts without letting them affect one.

    Comment by rummuser — November 10, 2017 @ 11:20 | Reply

  3. I have the same reaction to 9/11. It always reminds me of the Twin Towers massacre. I vividly remember John Lennon’s death but December 8 usually passes without me thinking of it. The same applies to November 22.

    Comment by nick — November 11, 2017 @ 17:50 | Reply

  4. Not remembering a day is something that concerns me much more than remembering a day.

    Comment by Looney — November 11, 2017 @ 18:33 | Reply

  5. How did I miss this one?
    Dallas… the date I cannot recall but who told me about the events I remember well… wonderful auburn hair, Andrea was tearing along the covered way outside … you get the picture… then April 8th 1968…
    9/11 is much the same for me as for everyone it seems..
    November 4th 1956…… anyone?….. ten years old and I understood the evil socialism so often gives rise to…. listening on a short waveband to appeals for assistance as Soviet troops invaded Hungary….
    The night of 20–21 August 1968, Communist invasion of Czechoslovakia… after The Prague Spring….confirming what I had learned in 1956….

    If I see rosebay willow herb or hear a skylark I am reminded of… well, I am reminded… combine the two and I’ll probably break down completely reflecting on a friend disappearing from my life later….. that was 1968 or 9…

    How does my brain work? I don’t know? I do know that there are triggers to memory….

    Comment by magpie11 — November 13, 2017 @ 20:32 | Reply

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